Inclusiveness is a value I cherish.
“Come on in.”“Stay as long as you like.”
These are words dear to me.
Now and then though, a guest who was warmly welcomed waves good-bye; and I feel a sense of relief. Can you relate?
Years ago, we invited *Becky and Dan, a newly married couple, to our summer home (the one we rent for ten days!) for the weekend. We were so glad to see them.
“Come on in.”
“Stay as long as you like.”
Within forty-eight hours, Dan’s behavior shifted the mood. For Doug, for me, for our children. Dan barely gave us the time of day, showing far more interest in our friends with the high powered boat. Conversation was limited to requests (demands?) for more food, drier towels, and, “Shhhh, I’m trying to sleep.” On the water, he hogged the skis, often splashing others in canoes and kayaks as he zoomed by, his maniacal laughter filling the space. In the cabin, he sprawled with his beer and snacks, eyes glued to the screen of a small television.
Yes, I admit it. It was a relief to wave good-bye when Becky and Dan pulled away in their car.
This morning, I had a similar realization about another guest- a guest who is often welcome, but yesterday, not so much. Despite my desire to welcome its presence, yesterday was just not a good day for this one. My ego.
Funny how the ego behaves. Often, it seems pleasant enough; but now and then, it becomes more like a bully. The demands roll in. Unwilling to share. Louder than necessary. And despite my desire to shush it and usher it out, some days, the petty path is taken.
What’s your ego up to today?
Thank goodness for the power of GOMO! Get over it; Move On! and for the beauty of a new day.
*Of course, names are changed!
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